I was in Memphis, working two jobs, accepted into the psychology department at Memphis State and ready to continue my education. However, I had to wait until l lived in Memphis for a year or the out-of-state tuition was $11,000 more than in-state tuition. Vocational rehabilitation was set up to pay for in-state tuition and for my books. I needed something to fill my time. I made friends with the people that I worked with and opened my ‘northern’ mind. Everything was slower in Memphis. Even though I spoke with clear annunciation, I spoke two quickly. I had to slam on my brakes and slow my speech so that the natives could understand me. They thought I spoke a different language if I spoke in my normal speak. It isn’t that they were less intelligent, they just didn’t process as quickly. They saw no reason. I got used to it but when I would return home or speak with others from the North (above the Mason-Dixon line) I would naturally pick up the speed.
Memphis is somewhat of a melting pot of cultures. I did my best to observe the new ideals and diversity. There are large Hispanic and Asian populations within Memphis. At the time I was there, it was 55% Black, 5% Hispanic, 5% Asian, 35% White. I had not been the minority before moving to Memphis. I spent 21 years in rural Illinois where we had our token black family, Jewish family, and the Hispanic migrant workers in the summer. That is about all of the diversity that I was exposed to prior to Memphis. I was fascinated. I wanted to learn more!!!
Memphis had amazing music venues! Live music was everywhere and in most bars. I started drinking every night after work, establishing a few ‘watering holes’, I was smoking pot but not daily and occasionally playing with some harder drugs to experiment a bit. I was still on my psychiatric meds so I didn’t do a lot as I was frightened of how my brain would react. I was waiting tables so my schedule was flexible. I worked as much as I could to pay my bills, support my vices, and saved very little.
I had some friends visit from Illinois (college, not home town friends) a few times. I would take them to Graceland, the zoo and Beale Street. Show them the fun of Memphis. Life was good! I was discovering who I was without any expectations of those around me. No one was comparing me to how I used to be, no one even knew that I was in an accident or suffered brain damage. Part of me pretended that it never happened. I could forget all about it and do what I wanted. I continued to visit my psychologist and psychiatrist monthly for a while then one day after I had some friends over for a gathering. I woke up and decided that I didn’t need it anymore. I took my prescriptions out of the cabinet and flushed them all down the toilet. This is not advised or encouraged in any way! Somehow it worked out OK for me.
I was self-medicating. I had started selling for a multi-level-marketing company. The products were all natural and I was going to make something big of myself! I stopped working at my serving job and also my retail to work this company. I was convinced it was going to work and moved back to home to introduce these products to my home town. I sold all of my furniture, didn’t renew my lease and I moved in with my best friend from high school at first. It didn’t work out, and I have no recollection of what happened but I moved back in with my parents.